COMgroups are great, but sometimes you need a space to go a bit deeper in an even smaller group.

LTGs are the place for that. They are groups of 2 to 5 people, usually of the same gender,
who meet regularly for accountability and encouragement.

How do I join an LTG?

Joining an LTG is really up to you, meaning the staff is not in charge of forming them. So if you realize you need something like this (and who doesn’t?), find a person or two and ask them to form an LTG with you. Chances are, they’ve been wanting something like this too, so make it happen!

What should we do?

While you can really do anything you want…we have provided a confession guide (below) to help guide you in the process of asking and being asked, in the context of a trusted group of people who can handle our honesty. They are a mix of positive and negative confessions. Before proceeding, there are a few questions for us to consider: Am I willing to be honest? If not, why? Am I a mature enough to be trusted with honest answers to these questions?

Each week, someone different will lead the confession time by selecting a few different questions to ask the group.

Confession Guide

Words

  • Did you speak maliciously, spitefully, or resentfully of anyone this week? Why?
  • Did you speak kindly to or of anyone this week?
  • Did you use your words to manipulate (lying, deceiving, embellishing) someone or something? Why?
  • When others spoke, were you a good listener or did you tend to interrupt them? Did you have to get the last word in every argument you were in this week? Why do you think you feel the need to get the last word?

Conflict

  • When and why did you get angry this week?
  • Was it healthy or unhealthy? Why?
  • Have you asked forgiveness of those you wronged this week? If not, why?
  • Are you harboring unforgiveness towards anyone? Why?
  • What are some steps you can take towards forgiving them?
  • Did you pray for your enemies this week?
  • Why do you feel like “they” are your enemy?
  • When did you feel wronged this week and how did you react?
  • Did you “turn the other cheek” or strike back?
  • Were you criticized this week? How did you respond?

Sex

  • Did you look at “pornography” this week?
  • If so, what were the circumstances and how can you not put yourself in a position where your triggers are triggered?
  • Did you mentally indulge impure thoughts?
  • Inappropriate, sexual, intimate thoughts about people who aren’t your spouse.
  • Did you physically indulge impure thoughts?
  • Are you cultivating a healthy lust for your spouse?
  • What something romantic or thoughtful that you could do for them this week?
  • How is a healthy lust for your spouse being affected by your indulgence of impure thoughts and actions?

Mission

  • Did you refuse to help someone you could have helped? Why?
  • Did you publicize any good deeds this week?
  • Why did you feel the need to publicize them?
  • How have you shared your faith, be it in word or deed, this week?
  • Can you think of an opportunity you had this week to share your faith, but you didn’t? Think back on that. Why didn’t you?
  • Are you ignoring someone God wants you to pay attention to?
  • Do you have some people you’re really investing in (intentionally finding time and space to help them process their faith)?
  • How are you regularly involved in the lives of the poor, marginalized, and oppressed?
  • If you’re not regularly involved, how can you become so?

Possessions

  • Have you given anything away this week?
  • Did you buy something you didn’t need this week? Why?
  • Do you feel like you’re telling your money where to go or that your spending and expenses are somewhat out of your control?
  • If out of your control, what can you do to get them under control?

Soul Care

  • What brought you joy this week?
  • Are you finding meaning in your work?
  • What is confusing, depressing, or worrying you? Why?
  • Have you consistently put yourself in places and positions that help you pay attention to God? If not, why?
  • How has God surprised you this week?
  • Are you consistently putting yourself in situations that are not good for you?
  • Could be spending too much time on a hobby, getting on the computer when no one is home, etc.

Relationships

  • Have you felt lonely this week?
  • If so, have you allowed God to meet you in your loneliness or have you just sat alone in it?
  • If you’re in need of some healthy relationships, what can you do to find and cultivate them?
  • Is there a relationship you are expecting too much from, asking it to make you whole when only God can make you whole?

Body Care

  • Did you exercise this week? If not, why?
  • What have your eating habits been like? If they’re bad, what can you do differently?

Family

  • Have you honored your parents this week? If so, how? If not, why?
  • Did you carve out time to do something fun or relaxing with your family?
  • What is something kind or unexpected that you could do for them this week?
  • In what ways are you doing a good job leading your family in faith and discipleship?
  • In what ways are you doing a poor job leading your family in faith and discipleship?
  • How can you work on that or perhaps have your spouse help you with it?
  • Are there any familial issues that are stressing you out?
  • In what ways do you feel you’re failing as a parent?
  • In what ways do you feel you’re succeeding as a parent?

Direction

  • Are there any situations in which you need guidance and clarity from God?
  • What do you want to happen? Why?
  • What do you think God wants to happen? Why?
  • What are you doing to seek out guidance and direction from God?

End

  • Having told the truth about yourself, what might repentance look like for you next week?